Surround yourself with positive people

			Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. – Mark Twain

Today its snowing

Chose your friends wisely

Social Proof is the theory that when people are uncertain about what to do, they look around at others to decide.

There is a term in sociology called Social Proof that captures what is going on very well. Social Proof is the theory that when people are uncertain about what to do, they look around at other people to decide. It does not matter how independent or important you think you are. This law of nature still affects you. It affects celebrities. It affects athletes. It works on both subconscious and conscious levels. Here are some examples to help drive home the point.

• There are many cases where women who stay together in all-female dormotories at universities and convents have menstrual cycles in unison.
• Birds flock together in unison and can change direction rapidly without falling out of synch.
• People who work together in a similar environment will pick-up similar speech patterns and mannerisms without any conscious effort.
• Fashion trends spread by people seeing other people wearing a new garment, which signals that it is OK for you to start wearing the same thing.

Social Proof tells the brain that it is OK to think and feel a certain way. For those contrarians out there, it has an effect on you as well, just in an inverse manner. The higher the stress and complexity of a situation, the more your brain will look to your environment to see that it is OK to follow your path. This is an evolutionary circuit that allows us to adopt behaviors that will help us stay alive. However, in a modern society where mortality rates are much lower and success is defined by more than just staying alive….we need to be aware that this “circuit” could also limit our potential if not managed appropriately. Recognizing that your brain works in this manner will help you develop your mind into a powerful tool for creating lasting change in your life.

Learning to live without you

Listen to : i'll be missing you

I think that when someone which was a constant in your life passes away, all your "points de repères" get messed up, you have to learn to live with that emptiness (inside and out) and you have to find the strength in yourself to go on with life without them

It is hard but it is part of life and your specific destiny, so one has to accept and get over all the sadness 

I remember when my mom was sick she was telling me how much she admires how strong i am and how i hadn't broken up, the truth is that God gave me the power to be that strong when she needed me but also her love was such a huge source of empowering energy

Now that i have lost her i think i owe it to her and to myself to fight for my happiness, it was her last wish for me

So i believe i will find my mother on my way to finding happiness

Happiness is a way of travel - not a destination. It comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed. 

Work on yourself

Whatever the case may be, success comes from personal awareness and continued self-analysis and development.

IF - Rudyard Kipling

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise; 

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master;
If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with triumph and disaster
And treat those two imposters just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trapI for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with wornout tools; 

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on"; 

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son!

Hommages à mami :(

Le travail

Seul le travail est votre privilège

et non les fruits qui en résultent

Que les fruits de l'action ne soient jamais votre mobile

et cependant ne cessez jamais de travailler

Travailler au  nom de Dieu en abandonnant les désirs égoïstes

ne soyez pas affectés ni par le succès ni par l'échec

Cet équilibre est appelé Yoga

Bhagavad-Gîtâ